Okay—so now that we’ve talked about what’s yours and what’s not yours…

we can talk about cords.

And this is where people get a little weird about it.

They’re like— “Do I need to cut cords with my mom?” “With my ex?” “With that one person who texted me weird once?”

And it’s like… relax.

Cord cutting isn’t about rejecting people.

It’s about ending agreements that aren’t actually serving you anymore.

What a cord actually is

A cord is just an energetic agreement.

That’s it.

At some point—consciously or unconsciously— you agreed to something.

• “I’ll take care of you”
• “I’ll be responsible for how you feel”
• “This is how I get love”
• “This is how I stay safe”

And the cord keeps that agreement active.

So it’s not random

It’s not like cords are just attacking you from the outside.

Even the ones that come from the back— there’s something in your space that’s allowing it.

And I say that with so much love.

Because it means…

you have the power to change it.

Let’s talk about the front vs. the back (this matters)

Front cords—

those are the ones you agreed to.

You liked something about the exchange.

Even if it doesn’t work anymore.

Even if part of you is like, “why am I still doing this?”

There was a payoff.

Back cords—

these are trickier.

This is someone wanting something from you that you’re not fully agreeing to.

But—

there’s still something in your space that’s letting it stay.

A vulnerability. A fear. A “what if.”

This is the part that changes everything

You don’t cut a cord just by cutting it.

You cut it by understanding:

why it’s there.

Because if you don’t—

you’ll cut it… and then it comes right back.

And you’re like:

“I literally just did this, what is happening?”

It’s not broken—it’s just familiar

Think of it like a habit.

Or like an old friend.

You’ve known it forever.

Even if it’s not good for you—

it’s familiar.

And your system is like, “are we sure we want to let this go?”

So instead of forcing it—get curious

When you see a cord…

follow it.

What’s on the other end?

A person? A pattern? A belief? A version of you?

And then ask:

“What do you want me to agree to?”

And then the real question

“Why am I letting this stay?”

Not from judgment.

From understanding.

Because there’s always something in there like:

• “This makes me feel wanted”
• “This makes me feel safe”
• “This is how I’ve always done love”
• “What if I don’t find anything better?”

And when you see that—

everything softens.

This is where compassion comes in

Because you’re not “failing” to let it go.

You’re protecting something.

You’re trying to meet a need.

It’s just not the cleanest way to do it anymore.

Now you get to choose something new

So instead of the old agreement—

you create a new one.

Something like:

• “Love is for me”
• “I am chosen in ways that feel good”
• “I don’t have to overgive to receive”

Whatever actually feels true—or at least possible.

And then (yes) you cut the cord

Golden scissors.

Simple.

Clean.

You don’t need drama.

You don’t need a whole ritual.

Just…

snip.

And here’s the part people skip

You don’t just cut it—

you replace it.

With a new belief. A new way of being. A new action.

Because that’s what keeps it from coming back.

And if it does come back?

Cool.

Cut it again.

And again.

And again.

Not because you’re doing it wrong—

but because you’re rewiring something that’s been there for a while.

Eventually, it stops coming back

Because your system goes:

“Oh—we don’t do that anymore.”

And that’s when it’s actually done.

If you want support with this work

This is deeper work—and you don’t have to do it alone:

• Light Club → for live cord cutting + energy clearing sessions
• NU IT School → for practicing this consistently and building awareness
• Love Frequency → if you’re specifically noticing this in relationships

Take your time with it.

Get curious.

Be kind to yourself.

And just keep choosing what actually feels better.

That’s the whole practice. 💜

Be light,
Deganit

About Deganit

Deganit is the founder of Nuurvana, author of Imagine, and an intuition expert. She is the creator of Be Light, guiding seekers through energy healing and spiritual awakening.

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